Behind the words and beautiful gestures of a man, sometimes cunning tricks of a skilled manipulator can be hidden. And all his actions are aimed only to achieve a specific goal - sex, money, woman relationships or some other needs. How to understand if a guy loves you or just uses for his own purposes? We will tell you about the most reliable signs that your chosen one is manipulating you.
The first signs that a guy is using you
How to understand when a man is sincerely passionate, and when he simply plays on his feelings? For each girl, this question, of course, is important - because the sooner you understand the manipulator and break off these relationships, the less valuable time will be lost, and the more chances there will be to meet your true love. And the very presence of a man who uses you can disadvantageously affect the appearance and health of a woman. She becomes sad, languishes, becomes dizzy, gets fat and does not understand - why.
Here are a few basic signs that a man is manipulating you:
Sudden disappearances from a woman’s life and equally sudden, without warning, appearance in her. This indicates that the man does not care about the feelings of women. Watch out if after a stormy night a man disappears somewhere, doesn't pick up the phone, and a week later appears on the doorstep, as if nothing had happened. Also offended if you start to blame him. Of course, he will find a million and a thousand reasons to justify in your eyes and appear innocent. But if this is repeated regularly - this is a serious reason to think.
A man is inattentive to your needs. Believe me, a man in love will always remember what exactly his woman likes, what kind of ice cream she prefers, what her favorite perfume and other details. But if a woman is uninteresting or interesting only for strictly defined purposes, the man will not even “take a steam bath” in order to memorize any information he gives her.
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If the gentleman does not take into account your desires - This is a clear sign that, most likely, he does not care about you. For example, he can go to a film, which is interesting only to him, and not to you. Or in a restaurant he orders wine that he likes, and you have to drink it. And many more such “pulls of the blanket” on himself.
This attitude clearly demonstrates that a man is not too interested in a woman. Otherwise, it certainly would have been more closely. And the woman’s comfort does not bother him either - such a partner nearby will not be able to cope, is it convenient for her, is she blowing out of the window.
His words diverge from actions by actions. If in words a man has already promised the sun, moon, star, house - a full bowl and more, but in fact appears in your life once a week, then there is a clear inconsistency. Most likely, he simply actively hangs “noodles” on your beautiful ears to deceive vigilance.
The criticality and bad mood of a man in your presence. If a man is in love with a woman, or if he simply likes her, then he will always be in high spirits in her presence. But if the appearance of a woman does not cause any joy, then it is very difficult for a man to hide it.
Latent dissatisfaction with the situation translates into comments, criticism, irritation. Being close to such an individual is very difficult and there is only one way out - to solve the problem, because with his bad mood the critic spoils it for you as well.
If a man does not introduce you to friends, does not introduce you to acquaintances - It is highly likely that intentions regarding you are not serious. Perhaps, of course, it is still early, and you have only known each other for a month. But usually a man takes a little time to understand if he is interested in a woman or not, and how far he is ready to let her into his life.
If she doesn’t represent her friends, then she doesn’t want her to go too deep into his life, doesn’t let her in, keeps her distance. And why? Because he doesn’t need this woman so close. It is necessary only for certain purposes - they met, had sex, and until the next meeting. In between these meetings, he has his own life.
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Your candy-bouquet period is over before you start. If a man has far-reaching plans and sincerely likes a woman, he will “stretch the pleasure”. Yes, of course, he will want her, but he will try to approach this issue smoothly, and not immediately with a cavalry swoop, drag a woman into bed.
If a man insistently hints specifically at the bed, but forgets about the small pleasant signs of attention, this suggests that his interests in relation to you come down to sex alone.
A man does not follow “the market”, does not try to speak beautifully and without mats in your presence. If you can swear, be rude, allow yourself insults, even if not against you, this is a serious reason to think about it. He does not try to appear better in your eyes, this is a bad sign.
A man carelessly treats your feelings. He can afford to walk with another girl. And even if he was noticed by your mutual friends, he will not call you in an attempt to justify himself. She will behave completely calmly, because she considers herself a free person without obligations.
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How to check your man
Who is more expensive: you or the car. Observe how a man reacts when you want to sit behind the wheel of his car or drive. Carry out such a test drive. For a man, his car is often like the second most important woman after his mother, and he treats him very scrupulously. And if he takes you seriously, then he will definitely give a ride on his “beauty”.
How important is money to him. If a man uses you from a mercantile point of view, then he will constantly run out of money on the phone, the bank will delay transfers to his card, there will be problems at work and other financial troubles. All this so that you pay for it.
A great way to test a man is to refuse to pay for him and look at his reaction. If he starts to get annoyed, then maybe money is all he needs.
Is he jealous of others. Try to make him jealous. For this, you can, for example, flirt with another man in front of him. If you do not notice your man showing signs of jealousy, this is another argument that he does not need you.
So, everything is quite simple. The main thing, having noticed the alarming signs of self-neglect, do not deceive yourself and try to take a sober look at things. And evaluate the actions of men, not his beautiful words. Actions do not deceive and show the real state of affairs and real men's feelings, in contrast to words.
Key signs of male use of women
Did your beloved meet you with your friends? Men strive to be more successful than others, so they want to demonstrate their “trophy” in the form of a chosen one to friends in order to get approval. If you often spend time exclusively together, then you should think about the seriousness of the intentions of your companion.
How often do you get together “in people”? Go to restaurants, exhibitions, and movies? If your answers to these questions are negative and all your free time is spent with you or at home in bed, then this is a sure sign of a frivolous attitude towards you. In addition to intimate relationships, a couple should be united by common interests, memories.
A man in love does not feel sorry for money for gifts to his woman (unless, of course, he is a real miser). If after a couple of dates your loved one no longer wants to entertain you, does not give flowers, gifts, then his intentions can hardly be called serious. Often you can find relationships in which men turn events so that a woman pays for them. Here you can immediately understand that a man uses you, because he is a real gigolo!
With a man should be comfortable and reliable. The ability to assist in difficult times is especially appreciated. For example, you are sick, you need support. A real man whose intentions are serious will certainly help. If he believes that your relationship can continue only after the problems go away, then such a boyfriend should be abandoned.
If a man has only one woman with whom he is well, then he will try to spend all his free time in the company of his beloved. If a man makes appointments for you on weekdays, and on weekends he is busy, then this is evidence of his other, more important interests. Another sign that allows you to understand that a man is using you is that he is nearby only when he has time and desire for this. For example, a man calls closer to the night and announces a visit, and when you want to meet, he cannot, justifying it every time with a lot of reasons.
A loving man behaves with a beloved woman respectfully. Watch carefully how he communicates with you in private and with other people. If you cause irritation in a man, he can be rude, then you should think: is such a person needed nearby? He does not look at you with other people in love with a gaze, avoids the manifestation of tender feelings? This behavior should also alert.
Does he invite you to stay with him for the night or does he seek to get rid of you right after sex? Personal housing for a bachelor is very important. He will leave only one who is trustworthy for a night near him. Does he want to trust you? If you have never spent the night with your beloved man, then this also indicates the insincerity of his feelings.
If you are a backup for a man who agrees to go to a concert and just have fun, then you should delete such a groom from your life as soon as possible. Serious relationships do not imply any fallback options, all attention is given to a loved one.
Does your man accuse you of not having a job? Problems, in his opinion, appear only because of you? Say goodbye to such a man. His negative emotions, which will cover you daily, will not lead to anything good.
People who want to live together often make joint plans to gradually make them a reality. If a person does not think about living together with you, then most likely he does not see you in his future.
If your feelings have cooled long ago, but you are still together, then you should think about the situation. Perhaps you are accustomed to such a life and use each other for joint convenience? If everything suits you in this state of affairs, then there are no questions. Otherwise, try to answer the question: is it worth wasting your own life, living with the unloved?
The best advice: do not idealize the chosen one and take a closer look at the behavior of a loved one. If he behaves inappropriately, then you need to think about whether it makes sense to continue to stay next to such a person. Of course, it is difficult to think when the heart beats fast, but still it is worth understanding that love passes over the years, and people do not change.